There’s just no room for this…

We have all said things about ourselves we wouldn’t consider saying to our best friend. Mean things.

I think we can all agree that the very last person in the world we should be giving a hard time is ourselves. There will never be a time when this is a good idea. Never a time when this will propel you into the person you want to be. Never!

The problem is, we do this without thinking, without even knowing we are doing it. The only way to be aware of our self talk is to be mindful and catch ourselves in the very act of doing so.  Chances are there is a mean word you use pretty often that you barely hear yourself say. Stop it!

The problem is your brain doesn’t know the difference between you calling yourself stupid, ugly, clumsy fat, lazy etc. and whoever or wherever that message came from in the first place.  And even if it did, do you really want your brain spending anytime deciphering the truth?

The truth is that this world needs powerful, strong women leaders and thinkers. We are living breathing examples of that every day to our friends, daughters, mothers, partners, co workers and anyone we come into contact with. Don’t diminish yourself by telling yourself you are less than anyone.

There is just no room in life for bad self talk. Be kind, especially to yourself!
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New Year-New Me

preview.phpThanks Aristotle for these words of wisdom, however, if this is true then at the end of December I would have a been a big piece of fudge. Thankfully, I finished that (yes I think I ate most of it) and I am ready for the New Me!

        Now we all know getting off the cocaine sugar train is hard and harder yet after the holidays. I recently heard that mice given the choice between cocaine and sugar, choose sugar. So there you have it, yes it is an addictive substance that comes in so many forms (not just white powder) that we are often ingesting it without really knowing it. Here’s the other piece of not so good news, your body does not know the difference between sugar from an apple or sugar from fudge. Yes, sugar, is sugar, is sugar. I know that an apple has many other good qualities that make it a better choice than said fudge but still it contains sugar. Remember sugar comes from plants, that doesn’t make it healthy. 

All that said I would never attempt to completely remove it from my life, that would be sorta like choosing not to live and I am all about living. It is just that I take it a little far during the holidays and need to bring it back to balance after I have had my fun and am done waking up feeling like poop or even just pooped. 

This time of year in Colorado it is helpful to be faced with getting in your swim suit in broad daylight in front of a bunch of people you’ve never met. It takes me back to what I repeatedly do most of the year, which is eat healthfully and workout. The vast majority of workouts I do are at home with DVDs that I own. As much as I’d like to think I own enough to not get bored, boredom does eventually set in and I need new inspiration. My latest way to break out something new is to check out Pinterest and see what’s new, what’s hip and what’s fun!  Here is my board if you need a little inspiration for the New Year and the New You!  http://www.pinterest.com/laurenhavlick/the-workout/

Happy New Year and may you find your self repeatedly doing what it is that you want to become!

This App…

Unknown-1IMG_0378So I’ve been doing workouts at home since Jane Fonda first put on her leg warmers.  I led workouts on my front lawn to, yes, AUDIO ONLY, instructions back when we wore LEOTARDS for workout wear!!!

Since then I have tried almost every type of at home workout. I have a huge library of DVDs that I can choose from. One of my favorite pastimes was browsing the new workouts on Collage Video. Last year that site closed down. That was a huge loss of inspiration for me. Alas, yet another opportunity to grow into the digital age because now access to the latest greatest workouts is on line!

I just discovered an app that I absolutely love. Barre 3 is an app you can download on to your phone, laptop or iPad and it costs a mere $4.99. HA! No excuses now ladies and gents!!! It provides workouts that are butt kicking in just 10 minutes and some are only 6 mins long! Many require NO PROPS! HA! HA! NO EXCUSES! There is “yoga with a park bench” while your children play on the jungle gym and a workout “in the kitchen” while you are getting dinner ready! (If you are still looking for an excuse, give up now)  It has tips and recipes that load the ingredients on to a shopping list for you.

This time of year requires extra work to engage my motivation and sometimes I feel like only doing a 10 min workout, however, I often find myself adding on an extra one after I get my body moving. I give myself a little smiley face on my calendar for every day I do at least 10 mins. The more those smiley faces line up, the more motivated I get! Oh Jane you would be so proud! Now get your app on!

My Latest Obsession

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P1000528 When I got married I promised in my vows to be constantly interested in something , anything really, that excited me so that I could bring that energy into my marriage and remain the fun and exciting person  I was when my husband met me.

If you know me well, you would say that I have kept that vow. Iam constantly interested in something new and my latest obsession is making necklaces.

We have a bead store in town that gives classes and I recently took one, thinking that the necklace they were teaching looked easy. Not so, however, I loved the challenge and I LOVE the result!

I was also recently diagnosed with Barrets Esophogus, a result of Acid Reflux (apparently I have silent reflux because I have no symtoms). This is a pretty serious condition and I needed to make some big changes in my…

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My Latest Obsession

P1000528When I got married I promised in my vows to be constantly interested in something, anything really, that excited me so that I could bring that energy into my marriage and remain the fun and exciting person I was when my husband met me.

If you know me well, you would say that I have kept that vow. I am constantly interested in something new and my latest obsession is making necklaces.

We have a bead store in town that gives classes and I recently took one, thinking that the necklace they were teaching looked easy. Not so, however, I loved the challenge and I LOVE the result!

I was also recently diagnosed with Barrets Esophogus, a result of Acid Reflux (apparently I have silent reflux because I have no symtoms). This is a pretty serious condition and I needed to make some big changes in my lifestyle and food choices. Namely, giving up my four favorite food groups, WINE, CHOCOLATE, CAFFEINE, AND SPICY TOMATO SAUCE! 

The other FUN! thing I have had to do is not eat for 2 hours before I go to bed. Previously, my nighttime routine included a couple glasses of WINE, a large bowl of Amy’s TOMATO soup with a lot of cayenne pepper and a couple pieces of CHOCOLATE, RIGHT BEFORE BEDTIME!

With such extreme habits to reshape, I really needed something to distract me from the PAIN OF CHANGE.

Enter my new craft! Making the necklaces lights my inner fire of creativity and keeps me busy and distracted at the very time that I need it. This new hobby is also fun and exciting and it brings that energy I promised to contribute to our marriage.

Sometimes a little bad news can open a new door or even help you start a fun, new (and good for you) Obsession!

Now excuse me while I go pick out the necklace I want to wear today!

Pull Yourself Up

Sometimes life will throw us a curve ball and knock us off track, or we may wake up on the wrong side of the bed (morning after morning) and just be feeling, well, in a word, sh***y.

When that happens, we all need to take some time and allow the feelings of sadness and hopefully, self compassion, to embrace us. Maybe even ask someone for a HUG and perhaps a shoulder to cry on. If you are a woman like me, I can tell you I process by talking, so find someone to talk to who will really listen to you.

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Yep, here’s my friend pulling herself up by her very own boots straps!

This is the essence of self care.

When you have done all these things, then it is time to reach down, grab your own bootstraps and PULL YOUR SELF UP!

This part is strictly your job and I am here to tell you, no one else is going to do this for you. Not your friends, not your partner, not Oprah or even Jullian Michaels can do this. 

NOPE.

This is up to you. So whatever you are going through, take care of yourself and start tackling the problem.

Start here…..

SLEEP

EAT WELL

AND GET SOME EXERCISE (walk around the block and if you can’t do that, then just breathe deeply)

These 3 things you NEED.  

From here you will have more strength to PULL YOURSELF UP and do whatever it takes to feel better.